Youth Pastors and Pastoral Care
On Sunday morning during a youth service, in fact, just before I got up to preach to the 50 teens in the youth room, I got called out of the room to attend to a teen in the foyer. He had told me before the service that he was worried about his mom who was going in for surgery and had been having sleepless night. He was clearly anxious and I prayed with him and made my way back into the youth room to wait for the worship to conclude before I would preach. A few minutes later I was called out again and this time was confronted by a critical situation – the young man, Neo, was clearly struggling to breath. I immediately made my way to the main sanctuary and had the media guy place a notice on the big screen that read: “A doctor is needed immediately in the youth room!” Two doctors in the congregation responded immediately and I briefed them with the little information that I had on the way up to the youth room.
As I stood over Neo’s lifeless body I could not see any signs that he was breathing and the 3 teens standing with him were trying desperately to revive him – saying repeatedly, “Come on, Neo, breath!”. I left the doctors to attend to him, made my way into the youth room where the teens were sitting down waiting for me to start preaching. I send my colleague, Mtha, out to be with the doctors and Neo while I immediately called the group to prayer for Neo. I prayed that God’s would send his resurrection life into Neo and make him live.
I concluded the prayer, with lots of Amens from the teens who were clearly worried – and started with my session of living in Victory for the morning. My assistant, Mtha, entered the room and said that as I had prayed Neo had sat up with a huge deep breath and that he was in good hands with the doctors.
Whether or not that was an instance of someone being raised from the dead is not my focus in this blog post – what is my focus is on what happened next and since then during the course of this week. Neo was taken to the hospital because one of the doctors who treated him realised that he had not just suffered an anxiety attack, but that he was experience abdominal pain. He had a pre-existing condition of stomach ulcers and the the anxiety had escalated his condition and he was needed further medical attention.
I made my way to the hospital to see Neo straight after the second service and found his friend Sipho at casualty with the news that Neo had been having more pain attacks and was in a critical condition. More of our youth arrived at the hospital concerned about his condition and after about an hour of not hearing any more I decided that I needed to make a plan to feed the teens who were not about to leave the hospital. I returned carrying Steers Burgers, chips and cokes and fed the hungry crowd. It was not until much later that afternoon that Neo was admitted to a ward and allowed visitors.
On Tuesday afternoon, I picked up a leader and some of his friends and we made our way to the hospital to visit with Neo (bringing him a copy of Philip Yancey’s book, “Where is God When It Hurts” and a card that all of us signed). Because we had used our bulk short text messaging service to update all our teens and ask them to pray that God would be with Neo, guide the doctors and bring the healing that he needed, I was able to read out messages to Neo from teens and parents who assured him of their prayers and well wishes. He had been given so much food and fruit that, before we left his bedside, he distributed most of it to his friends because he was not allowed to eat before undergoing a sonar scan. We visited with him for 2 hours and I then dropped off all the teens and his mom who had been visiting him.
We took some pics at the hospital and my colleague even made a little video that we posted on the igniteYOUTH Facebook site (tagging people in the pic and video). When I posted a comment with the photo on our Facebook page, the first person to respond was Neo from his hospital bed (it made me realise once again the power of social networking when used for the sake of the kingdom) and many people were able to comment and send him greetings. Neo wrote: “am hre i am yes its me neo recovring perfctly am brightr than the morning sun am lucky to hv god n my igniteyouth behind me i love u guys n to my mum this no one lyk u i love u n my fmly tnx god bless all of u for me loads n tons of love”.
What struck me was the number of messages that went around on Facebook about how we are a family – and that members of the group appreciate the care that they receive from leaders and from each other. One teen wrote that “We are like a family” and his was told quite sharply: “We are not LIKE a family, we ARE a family”.
Neo was discharged from hospital on Wednesday morning this week – and I was able to fetch him and his mom and drop their off at home. I spent a while with them, drinking tea and praying with them. In fact, I have just made a very early morning run to get both of them back to the hospital (Neo for a scope to check out the extent of his ulcer condition, and his mom to undergo an operation). They have both expressed sincere appreciation for all that we have done this week – and I know that we have communicated the love of Christ. His mom is a tradition healer and does not attend church – but who knows where her faith journey will lead as she has experienced the love of Christ this week!
So what have we learnt this week? Clearly, one of the critical roles of a youth pastor and the leadership of a youth ministry is the provision of pastoral care to teenagers or their families who are experience challenges like illness, medical operation or bereavement in their lives. There are times when we need to drop everything we are doing and move into crisis response mode to show the love of Jesus in as practical way as possible to those in need.
We don’t do it for this reason, but it will have a profound impact on the life of the group, bringing a sense of closeness and cohesion to the group. In fact, this Friday night, my colleague will be sharing on spiritual family and the kingdom of God and will use this situation with Neo as an example of how God has called us to demonstrate his love to people.
Are you aware of the needs of teens in your group? Have you let parents know that you need to informed about any challenges their teens face so you can respond timeously? Let’s be proactive when it situations like we faced this week and be Christ to people in their time of need.
I also learnt again the power of prayer – for who knows, if we had not prayed for Neo on Sunday – we might have lost him!

